Milena

“Love comes first every day.”

Name?

Milena Maia.

Where did you grow up?

Niterói, Rio de Janeiro.

Were you brought up religiously/secularly/other?

I studied in a Catholic school since I was twelve years old. I did everything a religious person would do until I turned eighteen, and now I just don’t care.

Was there turbulence throughout your childhood/adolescence?

Not really. My parents divorced when I was two years old, but I was still the only child, and they gave me the best that I could ask for.

Were you ever embarrassed about your development/puberty? If so why?

No.

Can you remember any key moments in your formative years that shaped you?

Yes. I had a really bad relationship with a guy who was seven years older than me.

"The most important thing for me in life, is love. Love comes first everyday in my life. Not just my partner, but also my friends, my family. I would do anything for those I love." -Milena Photo by Jennifer Toole

“The most important thing for me in life, is love. Love comes first everyday in my life. Not just my partner, but also my friends, my family. I would do anything for those I love.” -Milena
Photo by Jennifer Toole

Any that shaped your perspective of women?

Yes.

Of sexuality?

Yes. I think I will never have a serious relationship with a man again.

When did you become aware of your own sexuality, were there any key moments?

When I was fifteen years old I found out how much better I felt being with a girl.

What, if any, are the obstacles you’ve overcome on your path to womanhood?

I don’t know.

Have you ever struggled with your sexuality?

No.

Have you ever been embarrassed, burdened or ashamed of your sexuality? If so why?

No.

What is the image you think you project every day?

A very strong person, doing the best for people that I love and for me. Not wasting my time with superficial things. Trying to make the right choices in my life.

How would you describe your personal experience, existing in the way you do, each day?

The most important thing for me in life is love. Love comes first everyday in my life. Not just my partner, but also my friends, my family. I would do anything for those I love.

What is the image you would like to project?

A strong and successful woman.

"I’m really faithful." -Milena Photo by Jennifer Toole

“A strong and successful woman.” -Milena
Photo by Jennifer Toole

What do you think the image other people perceive is?

Just an ordinary one.

What is your political stance on women’s reproductive rights?

Our body, our choice.

Are you pro-life or pro-choice?

Pro-choice.

What are your feelings about contraceptives? Their availability, cost, stigma, usage?

It’s impossible to live in a world where they don’t exist. Sex between a man and a woman isn’t just to procreate.

What are your feelings on casual sex?

Maybe it isn’t better than having sex with someone that you really love, but I cannot think about anything better.

Are you in a relationship(s)?

Yes.

What are your feelings on marriage?

I feel like I’m the happiest and most satisfied person in this world. I want to live with this woman forever.

What are your most positive relationships with other women?

I just have a connection with some of them, and I cannot have it with men.

What are your negative?

I don’t know.

What does the word ‘woman’ mean to you?

I’m proud to be one.

What are your feelings on monogamy?

I dream of a marriage between two people.

On polyamory?

I think I could live it for a short period, but not forever, but I respect. We are all different.

Do you feel your choice to participate or not participate in consensual sex is at all affected by societal influence?

No.

"I feel like I’m the happiest and most satisfied person in this world. I want to live with this woman forever." -Milena Photo by Jennifer Toole

“I feel like I’m the happiest and most satisfied person in this world.” -Milena
Photo by Jennifer Toole

How do you feel about products marketed to women?

Fine.

How do you feel about feminine hygiene products’ portrayal in the media?

I’ve never thought about that. Just normal.

Were you always aware of what your body could do sexually & mechanically?

No. It came with time.

Do you feel your sexual education was sufficient?

Yes.

Where do you feel unsafe as a woman?

In my country, Brazil.

Where is somewhere you can exist without fear?

With my wife.

Do women treat you differently than men?

No.

Do you think the world’s perception of women limits or benefits them?

It depends on where you live, and what you do as a woman. Here in Canada I think the rights are equal between men and women.

How do you define sex?

Satisfy your body, and sometimes your soul.

“I did everything a religious person would do until I turn eighteen, and now I just don’t care.”

What does a sexual relationship mean to you?

People connected just for sex. Nothing else.

Do you feel comfortable communicating your sexual needs to a partner?

Always.

Have you found a balance of fulfillment with your partners?

Yes. But not always.

Do you feel that your desires are marginalized in the bedroom or are less important, if so why do you think that is?

No.

Are you fearful of being openly sexual for fear of judgement?

No.

Have you ever been in a position where your sexuality was used against you?

No.

Have you ever been physically or verbally threatened because of your appearance?

Yes. It happens all the time in Brazil.

When you imagine sex, what is the visual/feeling you associate with it?

Two naked people satisfying each other with passion.

Is sex empowering for you?

Yes.

Is sex embarrassing for you to discuss?

Sometimes.

Is there anyone in your world you undermine your principles for?

No.

What do you seek through sex?

Depends who I am with.

How do you feel about the media’s portrayal of women?

Fine.

Are you satisfied with the women you see depicted in film, television & advertising?

Yes.

What is something you deeply love about yourself?

I’m really faithful.

"I did everything a religious person would do until I turn eighteen, and now I just don’t care." -Milena Photo by Jennifer Toole

“I’m really faithful.” -Milena
Photo by Jennifer Toole

Who are/what are your biggest motivators?

Love and money.

Do you have people you look up to?

Yes.

Do you ever feel overlooked in the workplace because of your gender?

No.

Because of your appearance?

Yes.

Do you find entering the work force as a woman has any bearing on how people will treat you?

No.

Have you ever experienced sexism or sexual harassment within a workplace?

No.

Have you ever been verbally abused or threatened because of your gender?

Yes, but not while working.

If so, how did those in your life respond when you told them about it?

I didn’t know those people, so I didn’t say anything.

What are you feelings on motherhood?

I’m looking forward to being a mother, but I still need to work on some personal things.

What are you biggest fears?

Solitude, loneliness.

Your biggest regrets?

I’ve wasted so much time being a spoiled girl instead of starting my career and making money for my life.

Your greatest accomplishments?

Travelling around the world. ~